How I Work
You are in charge
Though we will work collaboratively, I will take your lead. When you don’t know what to say, silence is welcome, and when you have something on your mind, you are free to jump down whatever rabbit hole you wish – I’ll be here to make sure you are safe, bare witness, reflect, and point out that which may be worth further exploration.
Healing happens in the context of the relationship
The more comfortable you are, the deeper we can dive into areas of who you are that were previously hidden, cut off, or unknown, perhaps even to you. If you ever feel unsafe, unheard, or unseen, I invite you to let me know. If you have a question, ask. If you feel like something is off, say it. Take issue with this explanation of how I work? Great, let’s start there.
therapy is a laboratory
Feel free to experiment. Test out saying that which you have always wanted to say but suppressed, share feelings you thought were unacceptable, and try relating in ways that seemed previously foreign. This is how we grow – through taking risks and practicing being another way. You can take these risks and practice with me.
It may get harder before it gets easier
While in therapy, painful feelings can arise that we have tried to avoid for quite some time. In order to feel the joy, aliveness, and contentment we are seeking, we often have to be willing to feel sadness, pain, and anger we have kept hidden. We can’t have one without the other.
Trust the process
You may come in for one reason and end up working on another. You may have moments of doubt when you find yourself still stuck in the same patterns. The healing process may unfold in unexpected ways, yet I have consistently found that the gap between insight and change requires a leap of faith, faith in treatment and faith that you can indeed live differently.
The course of treatment varies
Depending on what you are coming in for, the course of treatment can be brief or take time. I encourage you to bring up when you believe it would serve you best to take your healing in another direction. I will be continuously monitoring your progress and growth and thus, agree to do the same.